Her Perspective

" They have to have four arms, four legs, four eyes, two hearts and double the love. There is nothing "single" about a single-parent." While there are several joys and advantages to being a single-parent, there is also a side to it that is painfully isolating because those who aren't in the situation will never fully be able to understand it. So my intention in writing this blog is not to complain about how "awful" life is and tell everyone to "take pity on us poor, miserable, single parents." My hope is that in sharing this with you who aren't single parents, that maybe this will give you more insight into our lives so you better know how to befriend or encourage us. Recently I’ve seen some blogs circulating the Internet attempting to explain what single parenthood is like. Here's my own spin on it: 1.) Just because we can do most things by ourselves, doesn’t mean we want to. Sure I can change my oil, flat tire, fix the

                                     "There is strength in humility and weakness in pride." You have this conversation multiple times a day... you know how it goes...  “How are you doing?”  "Great! And you?"  "Great!" ... Except for when it's not great but society makes you feel like you need to lie about it.  Have you tried to give a different response, a more genuine one, only to be shut down? Have you tried to open up even just a little bit only to hear in response “oh that’s too bad, I’ll be praying for you.” Yeah... I have heard that too. Then most of the time (depending on who you talked to) you walk away thinking “They probably won't be praying for me. They said that because they felt awkward and didn’t know how to respond.”  Or how about the time you told one of your friend something heavy you were dealing with only to be told the whole “well there are starving kids in Africa; it could be a lot worse” bit. Yeah… thank