Her Perspective

Doesn't Co-parenting suck? I know. I do it with two kids who have different dads. It's hard. It makes me cry more often than I would like to admit. It's agonizing and terrifying. Sometimes we work well together and sometimes we don't. But here is a list of 13 things we can do to help the situation and we can do so  without  the buy-in of the other parent. Will it be easy? Hell no. But I have to believe the hard work we do on the front-end is going to be something our children look back on one day with amazement and gratitude.  1) Incorporate the other family into conversations…and do so in a positive way! Don't make your child feel like he/she can't talk about mom or dad with you or you'll be upset or will start bashing on the other family. I don't care if the other family does that to you - take the high road.  2) Let them have pictures up of their other family. In fact, encourage it!  It's an easy way to let your children know you

"Narcissists are masters of illusion, they play the poor abused victim while in truth they are wreaking havoc by torturing, mistreating and abusing those that they fooled into loving them." After I met my narcissistic sociopathic ex, I called my best friend and told her I had met the love of my life and if it wasn't this guy, it wouldn't be anyone. Because no one could ever live up to the type of person he presented himself to be and I wouldn't have such magnificent chemistry with any other human. He was so sweet and innocent, I told her it didn't seem unreasonable that he could possibly even be a virgin... which would likely make him the only adult virgin male I knew. He was an answer to prayer, I was sure. God was coming through for me and brought me the man of my dreams and I was ecstatic.  Eventually I learned who he presented himself to be and who he actually is, are completely different people. Eventually I learned what it's like to go face

"All human unhappiness comes from not facing reality squarely, exactly as it is." - Buddha  As I was driving to work this morning I was listening to one of those radio segments… you know where they try to catch a cheater in the act. This one in particular the female DJ calls up whoever is suspected of cheating and pretends to be from a new floral shop in town. She offers the person an opporutnity to send a “sexy bouquet" of long stemmed “steamy”,  red roses to the person’s “special someone” at no cost other than a post on social media about the floral company as a way for them to gain popularity and build their business.  It always ends one of two ways: either the person suspected of cheating asks the flowers be sent to their significant other and eliminates the suspicions that they were cheating; or, they ask to send the flowers to someone other than their significant other and they confirm their partner's suspicions that they are in fact cheating. If the

The stats are that 1 out of every 3 women and 1 out of every 4 men are victims of some form of abuse by an intimate partner in their lifetime. That's crazy to think about, isn't it? In theory, that means one third of all the women and one fourth of all the men that you know have been abused. With how disgustingly common abuse is today, one would hope others would be familiar enough with it to know how to talk to an abuse survivor without causing further hurt and shame to them or that we would be equipped to help encourage a friend to leave an abusive relationship. But all too often, that's not the case. It's still "hush-hush" - a taboo subject. Most of us hardly know how to respond if someone just tells us they had a bad day. We feel uncomfortable and don't know what to say or how to comfort them. So hearing someone we know and love has been a victim of abuse ?... Well how do we even begin to handle that? What do we say? I'll get to that in a