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God loves you... even when you're pissed at Him

"God is the only one who can love everything you are despite everything you're not."

You know when you're in one of those really rough seasons how it's easy to wonder if God is even there? You feel abandoned and it seems like you have no capacity to improve your situation. You just need someone to throw you a lifeline.

I've been there. 

Recently, I was in a season of complete burnout. Of feeling like God was only there when I performed and checked all the boxes. I could only keep that up for so long before I ran out of steam. That mixed with several other life circumstances that all hit at once (Because that's what they do, right? All hit at once...) and I was done. I had nothing left to give. 

And I was PISSED.

...pissed at God. 

Can I be super honest? 

At the peak of it all, there was a night that was particularly brutal.

I was laying on my bathroom floor. Crying and screaming at God "Where the hell are you?!" 

I know... a Christian blogger who yelled at God so harshly. 

Shame.

But that's the raw reality of it. 

I know you've been there too. 

So let's cut the sweet little, holier-than-thou-Christianese crap and be honest with each other. 

Sometimes it feels like life is strangling you and God could cut the rope if He wanted to; but instead, He's watching you suffer. 

Sometimes it feels like He has turned His back on us and we question His goodness.

And that's okay

He can take it. 

The same way parents aren't offended when their children yell at them and say they are the worst parents in the world because they didn't let their kids eat cotton candy for dinner. 

The same way teenagers accuse their parents of "ruining their lives" when guidelines such as curfew and acceptable clothing choices are in place. 

You see, the more perspective you have, the more you realize those aren't battles worth being offended by. As a parent, you realize your child will one day see the good in your decisions, even though in the moment, it doesn't feel good to them. Even though in the moment, your child thinks you are against them. 

How much more grace does God have for His children? 

Because, truth be told, sometimes we act just like children. Sometimes our immaturity and small perspective on life gets the best of us. 

And that too, is okay

The God of the universe has wisdom, patience and love for us that are more vast than we can ever imagine. 

He's on our side. 

He remains peaceful even when we're pissed. 

His ego isn't so fragile that our emotions send Him into a rage. 

His fuse isn't so short He's going to unleash His wrath on you. 

His self-image isn't so pathetic He's going to cry and feel like a failure. 

He can take it. 

Do you know what I imagine he does when we are pissed at Him? 

I imagine like any good father, He pulls us in closer. Sometimes our violent thrashing keeps us from noticing His embrace. Sometimes our yelling and complaining keep us from hearing His love and encouragement. 

But He's there. 

Holding us in His hand, snuggled up close to His chest. 

He's there, moving our hair off of our face and wiping the tears from our eyes. 

He's there, loving on us even as we are yelling at Him, telling Him how mad we are at Him. 

He's whispering back "I know. I still love you. You'll understand one day. And in the meantime, my grace will cover that."

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