Her Perspective

“By judging others we blind ourselves to our own evil and to the grace which others are just as entitled to as we are.”   ―  Dietrich Bonhoeffer ,  The Cost of Discipleship When you are wrongly judged...   Keep your integrity so beautifully   intact that those who tried to discredit your character will eventually have no choice but to swallow the painfully obvious truth of who you are - a good person - despite their best efforts to convince themselves and others you are a monster.   That is when your victory will come.   It will not come in the heat of the moment when you bark back and try to defend yourself.  It won't come in the moment of weakness when you try to show who the real problem is in the situation and you just end up making yourself look crazy. No, they want a response. They want to prod at you until you explode because then they can assure themselves "See! I'm right! Look how awful she is!"  It ...

Single-parents know it’s hard for others to imagine, but as stressed as you are as a full-time student, as an active member of the full-time workforce, a stay at home mom to 4, or as a dad who works full-time and also coaches his sons football team, being a single parent is like the stress of all of those combined in one. We don’t only worry about the house needing to be vacuumed and the kids needing to be picked up from school. Or getting off work and mustering up the energy to help our kids with their homework. Our minds are this cluttered at  all   times: “Once I get done at work, I need to pick up the kids from the babysitters house, go home, make dinner, do the laundry that hasn’t been done in 3 weeks so the kids have something to wear tomorrow besides a bath towel…speaking of baths, the kids need a bath…when even was the last time they had one? I should wash the bed sheets when I’m doing laundry anyways and the kids should have a bath before I put the clean shee...

" They have to have four arms, four legs, four eyes, two hearts and double the love. There is nothing "single" about a single-parent." While there are several joys and advantages to being a single-parent, there is also a side to it that is painfully isolating because those who aren't in the situation will never fully be able to understand it. So my intention in writing this blog is not to complain about how "awful" life is and tell everyone to "take pity on us poor, miserable, single parents." My hope is that in sharing this with you who aren't single parents, that maybe this will give you more insight into our lives so you better know how to befriend or encourage us. Recently I’ve seen some blogs circulating the Internet attempting to explain what single parenthood is like. Here's my own spin on it: 1.) Just because we can do most things by ourselves, doesn’t mean we want to. Sure I can change my oil, flat tire, fix the ...

                                     "There is strength in humility and weakness in pride." You have this conversation multiple times a day... you know how it goes...  “How are you doing?”  "Great! And you?"  "Great!" ... Except for when it's not great but society makes you feel like you need to lie about it.  Have you tried to give a different response, a more genuine one, only to be shut down? Have you tried to open up even just a little bit only to hear in response “oh that’s too bad, I’ll be praying for you.” Yeah... I have heard that too. Then most of the time (depending on who you talked to) you walk away thinking “They probably won't be praying for me. They said that because they felt awkward and didn’t know how to respond.”  Or how about the time you told one of your friend something heavy you were dealing with only to be told the whole “...

"The depth of a man's character is not measured by his physical strength but by the depth of his nobility." In today’s society, there is a serious misconception amongst men that yells “The louder you are, the more muscular you are and the more women you sleep with, the better of a man you are!” Well, I would like to challenge that distorted perception of reality and set the record straight from a female perspective. I often see so many men trying to prove they are “good enough” even when they have to compromise their character or the best interests of others to get their point across. So I would like to clarify what truly is the strength of a man. Strength is not found in the man who has the most muscular body and who can bench press the most weight. Strength is found in the man who although he is strong, he doesn’t need to bang on his chest and proclaim it to the world. A man is strong when he has a quiet confidence to him. He doesn’t need to prove his poin...